St Columba’s: Supporting Your Child In Grief session

Our next ‘Supporting your child in grief’ session takes place on Thursday 11th January at 11am.

The session offers an opportunity for you to join other parents and carers to talk, share feelings and connect with one another. You can simply say it how it is, seek advice and hopefully pick up some tips from each other.

Register for free today at http://bit.ly/3vtaTTC

NSPCC issues advice for parents and carers to help support children with grief following the Queen’s death

Following the news about The Queen’s death children and young people have turned to Childline counsellors for support. They have discussed a range of different things, including:

  • Sadness for the loss of The Queen
  • Past bereavements that this has reminded them of (family members or friends passing away)
  • Issues around mourning in public and school’s announcements/assemblies
  • Feeling overwhelmed with all the news at the moment – with The Queen’s passing being one more sign of “how the world is getting worse”
  • The monarchy’s legacy
  • What the new King will do

Advice – for parents and carers

Following a huge and public loss like that of Queen Elizabeth II, it is normal for children and young people to feel the impact of the grief in their communities.

This may have raised questions for them about loss or remind them of their own experiences of bereavement.

There are a number of ways that adults can support children at this time:

  • Let them know that you’re there to listen to them and remind them that sharing how they feel can really help. Equally, give them space if they wish to be alone to process how they are feeling
  • Remind them that there are lots of small ways to let their feelings out. This could include expressing their feelings by doing something creative such as writing a letter to that person or keeping a diary of how they’re feeling
  • If they are upset about someone who has died, encourage them to think of the happy times they had with the person who died and share this with you so you can talk about them together
  • Remind them that it can take a long time to feel better if they have experienced a bereavement and that this is normal
  • If they are finding it hard to talk to you, let them know they can contact Childline for free, confidential support and advice on 0800 1111 or www.childline.org.uk

Shaun Friel, Childline Director, said: “It is not surprising that the death of Her Majesty The Queen has brought up different feelings for children and young people. When big world events take place such as this, we often see them being raised by children in Childline counselling sessions.

“Those that have turned to our counsellors have talked about a range of things including sadness about her death, questions about loss and grief, and for some young people, The Queen’s death has reminded them about a bereavement they have experienced in their own lives which will feel very difficult for them.

“Others have highlighted that it feels like another piece of very overwhelming news at the moment.

“Death is a very natural and inevitable part of life, but its also a very overwhelming topic for children to process and understand. It is important that children know there is someone they can talk to if they are feeling worried or upset. Remind them that there are trusted adults who can listen to them and that they can always contact Childline for free, confidential support and advice.”

Sir Peter Wanless, CEO of NSPCC, said: “Everyone at the NSPCC is devastated by the death of Her Majesty The Queen. She was our Royal patron for more than 60 years, which was just one of the countless ways she made a huge difference to the lives of children in the UK. Our thoughts go out to her family, including our current patron the Countess of Wessex.

“Her Majesty The Queen supported the NSPCC in a number of ways, including attending our centenary thanksgiving service at St Paul’s Cathedral in 1984, visiting our national training centre in 1989 and hosting a reception at St James Palace in 2007 to mark the end of our FULL STOP appeal. The NSPCC’s Royal patron is currently the Countess of Wessex.  

“We know that during this moment of national shock and mourning, many children will be feeling anxious. Support is available for children struggling with anxiety at Childline: Worries about the world | Childline

Schools return: Swinney urges parents to follow the FACTS

With P1 – P3 children and some senior pupils going back to school next week, Deputy First Minister appealed to parents to play their part in making the return a success when he led yesterday’s press briefing:

Mr Swinney said: “As you know, Monday will see children returning to early learning and childcare, and to primaries 1 to 3.   In addition, a very limited number of senior phase students will return to secondary school, for essential work which is required for national qualifications, and which can only be done within school. 

I want to take this opportunity to thank all those who are working hard to prepare for this return – that of course includes teachers, childcare providers, school staff and school leaders.  Your efforts are hugely appreciated by me and by the Scottish Government.

This partial return of education is an important milestone.  And there are two specific points I want to make about it today.

The first point concerns testing in schools.

As senior phase pupils, teachers and school staff start to return, we will be making at-home lateral flow tests available to them, twice a week.

Pilot testing programmes have been running in a small number of schools, in recent weeks.  And we are using what we’ve learned from this, to roll the programme out across the country.

As part of that, we have been working closely with the UK Government to get test kits into schools.  This process has obviously been affected by the severe weather that we’ve experienced in recent days. 

However, I can confirm that around 2,500 schools have now received testing kits.  And we expect  any remaining schools will receive their allocations either today or early in next week.

On Tuesday, we issued comprehensive testing guidance to schools and to local authorities.

And we are working with YoungScot to provide online information and support for senior phase pupils who want to take part in the testing programme.

This first phase of testing will include childcare staff based in schools. We are currently working through the practical arrangements for rolling out testing to childcare staff working in other types of nursery settings.  And we will provide further details on those arrangements very soon.

Testing in schools is entirely voluntary – but I would encourage staff and pupils to take the tests, if you are offered them.  The use of testing is a very important addition to the other safety mitigations which are already in place.

Of course, the evidence suggests that the key risk in re‑opening schools isn’t transmission within schools and nurseries – but the greater contact it leads to, among the adult population. 

That brings me to the second point that I would like to make this afternoon. Parents and carers also have a really important role to play, in making the return of education a success.

For example, if you have been working from home up until now, please continue to do so – even if your children are back at school or nursery.   Your employer has a legal obligation to support you in doing that.

Don’t use this return as an opportunity to meet up with other parents or friends.  

And as a general rule, if you find that you are meeting up with more people than you were before, once your children have returned to school, then think about why that is. All of us should be minimizing our social contacts right now. 

In addition, when you are out of the house – at the schools gates for example – please remember to follow the FACTS advice.

For all of us, that advice is perhaps more important now than ever before.  We’re now dealing with a much more transmissible form of the virus.  So we need to respond accordingly – by making it even more difficult for the virus to spread.  

That’s why the Scottish Government is launching a new campaign – to highlight the importance of the FACTS advice and all of the other rules and guidelines.   It emphasises the need for all of us to stay on our guard, even as our vaccination programme is rolled out.

So I want to take this opportunity to quickly run through the five golden rules of FACTS – and why they’re so important:

  • The first is face coverings. In enclosed spaces, face coverings help to protect you, and those around you.  And remember, ahead of next week, face coverings should be worn by parents and carers, when collecting or dropping off your children from school.
  • Avoid crowded places. Covid thrives in a crowd.  So by avoiding these kinds of situations, you minimize the chance of spreading the virus.
  • Clean hands and surfaces – good hand hygiene and regular cleaning remain really important. If you are leaving the house, take hand sanitizer with you – or use it wherever it is provided.
  • Two metre distancing from members of other households. You should always physically distance from other households. Again, that’s maybe especially important to remember as some schoolchildren return. For parents and carers, for example, you should remember to physically distance when you are walking to school or nursery, and when you’re dropping off or collecting your children.
  • And finally self-isolate and book a test if you have symptoms. That is how we identify cases – and stop the spread. If you are identified as a close contact of someone who has Covid, you also need to book a test, and to self-isolate for ten days.

By following each of these points, we can help to make this initial return of education a success.  And we can help to keep each other safe, as the vaccination programme does its work.

However, I want to emphasise that the basic rule at the moment remains the same.  Right now, all of us should be staying at home. 

In any level 4 area – that of course includes all of mainland Scotland – you must only leave the house for essential purposes.

You cannot meet up with other households indoors.

And if you meet up with someone outdoors, you can only meet with one other person from one other household.

These restrictions are really difficult – and I don’t underestimate that for a moment.  But crucially, they are working.

Case numbers are coming down – so too are hospital admissions.

We need to see that trend continue – and so it’s vital that we continue to stick with the restrictions.

That is how we keep the virus under control.

And it’s how we give ourselves the best chance of returning – more quickly – to some form of normality.  

So please continue to do the right thing.

Stay at home, protect the National Health Service and save lives.

And my thanks go once again, to everyone who is doing that.

All of Us: still here to help in Edinburgh

Help is available for any families struggling in Edinburgh despite the ongoing health crisis, say the city’s Child Protection Committee and NSPCC Scotland.

All of Us was launched earlier this year to help people find out where to get support and advice with parenting or other worries about family life and where to turn if they have concerns about a child.

The campaign is also raising awareness among communities and professionals about the early signs of child neglect and how to help families who are struggling.

It has never been more important that both children and adults have somewhere safe they can turn to if they are worried. That is why Edinburgh’s Child Protection Committee and NSPCC Scotland are doing everything they can to ensure that vital services such as the NSPCC run Childline and various helplines for adults worried about a child can stay open, while also ensuring staff and volunteers have a safe environment in line with government advice.

The partnership wants to help parents and carers, who may be struggling, and signpost them to where they can get advice and support before reaching crisis point.

Carla Malseed, NSPCC Scotland local campaigns manager, said: “We know that looking after a child can be challenging for all parents, and now even more so as we all have to be responsible and stay at home to reduce the risk of spreading coronavirus.

“It is so important that people know there is still support out there and that they know where to turn for help.”

Joanna Barrett, Policy and Public Affairs Manager for NSPCC Scotland added: “The entire way we think about child protection has changed in a matter of days and it is encouraging how the Scottish Government has recognised the effects this crisis could have on children at risk of abuse and neglect.

“We all need to play our part by checking in with families however we can and reaching out for support and advice if we have any concerns.”

Jackie Irvine, Chair of the Edinburgh Child Protection Committee, said: “We appreciate these are extremely challenging times for everyone, but protecting young people and supporting families remains a priority for us.

“The need for people to support each other is greater than ever, which we are seeing as communities pull together and show great strength.”

For parenting advice and support visit NSPCC helpline or call 0808 800 5000, weekdays 8am to 10pm and weekends 9am to 6pm. People can also contact Social Care Direct on 0131 200 2324.

To find out more about the campaign visit www.edinburgh.gov.uk/allofus