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World Mental Health Day: Eight things you can do to boost your mental health … that won’t cost a penny

With one in six people in the UK experiencing conditions like anxiety and depression each week, a wellbeing expert has provided ideas to help people boost their mental health – which cost a penny.

Counsellor and author Lynn Crilly said: “With the days getting shorter and darker, winter can be a hard time for some people particularly as we’re less likely to get outside and socialise. This can lead to us feeling cooped up or lonely

“With little sign of an Indian Summer this year, September being four times wetter than usual and October looking bleak, there is a risk that we could see an increase in lower moods, anxiety and depression. 

“Coupled with the constant barrage of negative news and worries about everyday living costs, not to mention the increase in energy prices, it’s important to have a ‘mental health survival kit’ of ideas or activities to see you through the difficult days.”

With worries over money often a leading cause of poor mental health Lynn, who is an ambassador for the mental health charity SANE, and her followers have come up with suggestions if you struggle over the winter months:

  1. Start a monthly book club with friends, where you not only explore new books together but know you have a regular meet up every month to look forward to.
  2. Walking in and around nature. Whether alone or out with someone, this can be really energising and release those feel-good hormones. 
  3. Get Crafty! Whether it’s drawing, colouring or perhaps getting arty with some old clothes, whatever your level crafts can be fun and therapeutic.
  4. Teach yourself a new hobby using YouTube. Whether its knitting, crochet or  even the person who taught themselves tap dancing, the internet can be a great way to learn a new skill or hobby. And if it’s exercise, that will help boost your mood naturally.
  5. Cook healthy hearty meals from scratch that will fuel the body and mind in a positive way rather than eating lots of ready meals and junk food. It’s vital to eat well, and winter is a chance to learn, or improve your cooking skills and potentially save money through batch cooking and healthy ingredients.
  6. Whether in a class environment or in your own space at home, practising yoga and mindfulness can really make a difference to how you are feeling and clear your mind. There are loads of good resources on YouTube, including popular channels by @CatMeffan and @yogawithadriene 
  7. I love reading a good old fashioned book. A good book allows you to lose yourself within its pages. Charity shops have an array of books but the local library is often an under used resource. It’s also a good chance to get out and talk to other people and perhaps find a new local group. Community libraries are no longer the places of silent study.
  8. It’s good to know what’s going on in the world, but right now it feels like we’re constantly being bombarded by negative news. It can be hard sometimes to look past that, so maybe switch it of for a few days have a social media break and go back to life before technology which will hopefully allow you to recharge

If you’re still feeling down, Lynn recommends her top tip for all year round. “On the days I find myself struggling, I think about all the things that I do have, rather than what I don’t have.

“We can become consumed in what other people are doing, particularly in the unrealistic world of social media influencers, that we look past our own lives and the joy we can find there.

“As a counsellor, I don’t believe in suffering in silence. If you are worried, or perhaps worried for a friend, talk to someone who can offer professional help.”

World Suicide Prevention Day: Expert shares tips on how to help someone showing signs they might try to end their life

A LEADING wellbeing expert has shared her advice on how to best support someone showing signs of ending their life.

Lynn Crilly’s advice comes ahead of World Suicide Prevention Day which takes place on Tuesday September 10.

Over 5,600 people committed suicide in England in 2023, equivalent to over 11 suicides per 100,000 people. 

And with mental health services under huge strain it’s feared numbers could be even higher in 2024.

Mental health crusader Ms Crilly, a counsellor and author, whose books include Hope with Depression: a self-help guide for those affected and their families, friends and carers, warned we are currently in the midst of a major crisis. 

But she added: “Most people who feel suicidal do not want death, they just want the pain to stop. So the most powerful thing you can do is be there for them, showing that you care that that their life matters, and helping them find an alternative way forward.”

Highlighting the clues to look for, she continued: “Most people who attempt suicide will give some clue or warning, so it is vital to take those clues seriously, even if they are said casually.

“They may talk or write about death or harming themselves, or they may seek out things that could be used to take their own life, such as weapons or drugs. However, there may be more subtle signs: hopelessness, self-loathing and self-destructive behaviour should all be taken seriously.

“Be alert also to those who seem to be getting their affairs in order or saying goodbye to people as if they will not be seen again. It sounds obvious, but all too often the clues are missed.”

Explaining how best to react if you spot any of the signs, Lynn, who is also currently producing a film called A Day With An Eating Disorder, continued: “If you spot any of these signs and are worried about someone you care about, it is natural to question whether you should say something.

“ But the best way to find out is to ask them. Showing you care will not push someone towards suicide, rather it will give them an opportunity to voice their fears and feelings which could in turn help them to see that there is another way forward.

“While talking is crucial, so is listening. Allow your friend or loved one to unload their despair and listen without judgement, remaining calm and accepting of how they feel. Reassure them that help is available and tell them how important they are to you.  Avoid arguing with them or appearing shocked.”

Outlining where to best direct those who might be suffering Lynn added: “Help them to find professional help and be proactive in keeping in touch with them – do not wait for them to call or expect them to ask for help.

“Instead, be in touch often and continue to be supportive in the long term, even if the immediate crisis appears to have passed. Help them to come up with a plan to follow if they feel suicidal thoughts descend.

“This may include identifying their main triggers, as well as what may help them to fight through those difficult feelings. The plan could also include a clear list of contact numbers for friends and family who can help in an emergency, as well as details of their doctor or therapist. If you are worried that there is an urgent danger that they may commit suicide, phone their doctor or dial 999.”

Charity website https://www.sane.org.uk/ is a good source of information, with helplines and other ways to get the support  about how to help someone who is having suicidal thoughts.

To mark World Suicide Prevention Day, Lynn’s daughter Samantha, a poet and actress, has shared these words:

DEAR SUICIDE

By

Samantha Crilly

If we fly away together, can we go as high as we can

So far away we’ll lose sight of this land

I must admit it scares me ever so slightly

I know life on this earth isn’t given out lightly

You’ve said it will be peaceful where we’ll end up

however, I’ve been told here many times I have too much to give up

I hope you’re not lying as word says you’re a thief

Wearing a mask of purity to cover the muck underneath

You’ve made me swear not to listen to tomorrow

But it keeps telling me love still has time to grow

That there is happiness down here still waiting for me

That one day I will have the strength to set myself free

So therefore, I’ve decided to pull out of our deal

I know I’m worth so much more than how you feel

goodbye, I hope you keep your thoughts to yourself

and I’m looking forward to sharing tomorrow with everyone else.

Charity SANE supports new film aiming to “shine a light” with on life living with an eating disorder

A NEW film which will “shine a light” on the battles people living with eating disorders face is being supported by one of the country’s leading charities. SANE say they are proud to support A Day With An Eating Disorder which is being produced and co-written by author and counsellor Lynn Crilly. 

The film, which will be released next year, comes as new figures show rising numbers of young people are being diagnosed with eating disorders.

In the past school year there were 10,606 children beginning treatment for an eating disorder, compared with 5,240 patients in 2016-17.

Waiting times for treatment are also rising, and 12 per cent have to wait more than three months for an appointment, compared with one percent three years ago, according to information disclosed by the House of Commons Library.

Film-maker Lynn, who is an ambassador for SANE, said the figures were deeply shocking and underlined the extra support young people need. She said: “We hope the new film will shine a light on the battle which sufferers and their carers face on a daily basis.”

Praising the project, Joanna Christophi, Chief Operating Officer of SANE said: “SANE are proud to support ‘A Day with an Eating Disorder’.

Lynn is passionate about helping young people with mental illness from eating disorders to depression, including their families, as her work stems from personal experience with her own twin daughters.

This coupled with extensive life experience both personally and professionally within the mental health space, gives her a multi-skilled approach to the support she gives which is also reflected in her books and films.   

For several years, Lynn has been raising awareness of SANE’s activities and we are both committed to campaigning to improve services for those affected by mental ill-health, as well as their families and carers. SANE is proud to have Lynn as an ambassador.”

A Day In The Life With An Eating Disorder, will feature Lynn’s daughter Samantha, who has battled an eating disorder and still suffers with OCD.

A number of actors and actresses have also agreed to appear for free to raise awareness. Among them is Susannah Page, the daughter of legendary singing, screen and comedy icon Joan Turner. 

Susannah, who will play a woman battling an addiction to alcohol in the film, said: “I’m delighted and honoured to be a part of this very important film. I’ve been impressed and deeply inspired by the work Lynnand Samantha are doing in this area. 

“I’ve learned a lot myself about how this condition impacts the sufferers and their families, and I am sure this will film will help many others who might be struggling and need support.”

The project is also being backed and supported by Debbie Arnold, the former Eastenders actress. 

She said: “I’m delighted to be supporting this film as it is focusing on such an important set of issues. As the mum of two daughters I’m acutely aware of the struggles many people can have with mental ill health, anxiety and other related disorders.”

“It’s very important that this film is shining a light on them and I’m sure it will help lots and lots of people.”

Seven Steps to help get you through Dry January

TRANSFORM YOUR HEALTH IN 2024

PEOPLE embarking on Dry January need to wait at least 10 days before they see the full impact of ditching the booze, a top expert has explained. 

Counsellor and author Lynn Crilly said removing alcohol from your life for a month can bring “huge health benefits” that can set you on a path to a healthier and happier 2024.

Lynn said: “For moderate drinkers going alcohol free for a month can be challenging, but it is achievable and healthy. The same may not be the case for daily drinkers or those more dependent on alcohol and these people should seek professional advice and support before they do so.

“The first few days are likely to be the hardest as there may be some withdrawal symptoms such as difficulty in sleeping, and you are likely to also experience some hangover-like symptoms such as cloudy head, agitation, tiredness potentially this is due to lack of hydration. 

“By day five you may be craving sugar that the alcohol is no longer giving you, but on the plus side you should feel sharper and notice an improvement in your concentration. By day seven it gets even better because your sleep should improve significantly. By day ten you should be feeling less sluggish, more energised, and raring to go. The full benefits will kick in.

” In the long run it reduces the risk of diabetes, lowers cholesterol and blood pressure and reduces levels of cancer related proteins in the blood.”

Outlining the main benefits of Dry January, Lynn says: 

Detox:

Taking a rest from drinking alcohol can give your liver a much-needed break and time to re heal itself from the festive overindulging.

Alcohol is known as diuretic, which means it causes you to wee more than if you just drink water, this makes it harder for the body to hydrate itself which leads to dry skin. Reducing the level of alcohol will give your skin a more refreshed look and make your eyes brighter.

Often more calories are consumed by food rather than drink, meaning a potentially higher vitamin intake, leading to your skin looking healthy and glowing.

Improved Sleep:

One of the first things that people notice when doing dry January is that their sleeping pattern improves drastically and they experience an increase in their energy levels. While alcohol can help people to fall asleep faster, the quality of the sleep is less restful and you spend less time in ‘real ‘sleep. On the other hand, days when you do not drink can lead to a much better sleep, making it far easier to wake up in the mornings.

Feeling less bloated or even drop a few pounds: Depending on how much you were drinking before you may find you shed a few pounds over the course of the month as alcohol is liquid calories which many do not replace with food, also the craved junky food at the end of a boozy evening will also be of the menu!

Save money:

If you have been regularly spending money on alcohol it can really add up and put a dent in your budget, so by not shelling out for it you could put that money by and give yourself a treat at the end of the month such as a massage or a new outfit!

TIPS ON HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL

Begin writing a journal:

At the beginning of the month write down the reasons you wanted to take a break from the drink, and the positive changes that are being made. Then if sometime during the month you are facing a particularly challenging time refer back to the journal to remember why you started. 

Start a new workout regime:

Since drinking can leave you feeling slow and sluggish, January may be the perfect time to start a new fitness regime. Having the new surge of energy will benefit you when exercising and release those positive endorphins.

Look at new ways to cope:

If a glass of wine was your way of winding down at the end of a day, it may be worth looking at other options such as yoga, reading, meditating, going for a walk or even a hot bath with lots of bubble bath can all help you to wind down.

Look for a replacement:

If drinking has become a habit, then it is a good idea to find a replacement to sip, sparkling water with lemon juice, or pour a can of flavoured tonic water into a wine glass and sip slowly, it is surprising how quickly one habit can be replaced with another especially when it makes you feel better. 

Team Up with a friend:

It is always easier to keep motivated if you are doing Dry January with a friend. Encourage friends and family to get involved, so that you are accountable and support each other or even raise some money for charity.

Keep Busy:

The first few days will be the hardest, so it is always a good idea to have things planned to keep you busy, do things that are fun and will help to take your mind off drinking, because the less time you must think about it the easier it will become. 

Be Kind to yourself:

Drinking has become so ingrained in our culture and everyday life, whether you’re celebrating a wedding or mourning the loss of a friend, it can be difficult to abstain from alcohol for a whole month.

People are often their own worst critic and can get down on themselves – and give up on their dry month if they have one drink, but please remember the whole point of attempting a month without alcohol is not to feel bad about yourself.

The goal is to become more mindful of the role it plays in your life, if it leads to you drinking less than you normally would, then that must be a win even if you still enjoyed the odd glass of wine. 

National Grief Awareness Week: Nine steps you can take to get through the darkest days

BEING open about your feelings and allowing yourself time to recover are the key to overcoming grief, a leading expert has said. 

This week marks National Grief Awareness Week with events planned across the UK to raise awareness of an often under-discussed issue.

In an additional bid to help, counsellor and author Lynn Crilly, who supports a lot of people through these dark moments, has today shared nine tips on how to best deal with grief when it strikes.

It comes as her daughter Samanta, the author of Hope Through Poetry, releases a new poem in a further attempt to spread awareness. 

Lynn said: “Grief impacts us all. But it impacts us all in different ways. When I lost my Aunty ten years ago, I felt a pain I had never experienced before, I guess you could call it a broken heart or heartache.

“It took me many months if not years to accept her not being around, but as they say with time I have created a new normal, the bad days became fewer, and while I miss her terribly I have found myself again. 

“Sometimes I felt guilty for smiling or laughing, but I know she would have wanted that for me which has helped with the bereavement process and to move on. So too has keeping her memory alive and remembering special days and anniversaries with the happy memories I have.

“There are things you can do to help get you through.”

Sharing her next practical steps, Lynn said:

  1. Allow yourself to feel emotion: If you feel emotional or sad, let these feelings out, do not be afraid to cry, as crying can help to release emotions. If you feel angry or resentful…. that’s ok, let the anger out in a safe way such as hitting a punch bag or cushion … try not to bottle it up which can be easier said than done, especially if you are supporting others as well as trying to deal with your own grief.
  2. Talk about the Person: Don’t be afraid to talk about the person who has died. Whilst they may not be here physically, they are still very much present in your mind and with others too. It is important to keep their memory alive, with stories, memories and just talking about them. This can be painful to start with but by not doing so can leave you feeling isolated and alone with your grief.
  3. Take Care of Yourself: Taking care of yourself as much as possible is so important to how you deal with your loss. Try to eat good food regularly, getting some fresh air and gentle exercise along with sleep (or if trouble sleeping rest) can all help with this.
  4. Talk about your feelings: Talk to someone that you trust about your feelings, such as a family member, close friend or partner. If you do not feel able to confide in anyone there are also helplines with dedicated people at the other end ready to listen.
  5. Avoid ‘short term’ fixes: Sometimes to block out the pain and how you are feeling, people can turn to alcohol and drugs to make them feel better or numb the feelings, while these may help temporarily, they are not the long-term answer and can cause further issues of their own.
  6. Keep a Routine: It is easy to feel lost and not wanting to do anything when you are grieving, but by keeping a routine and doing normal everyday things it can help to distract you even if for a short while.
  7. Stay in touch with people: I know myself it is so easy to withdraw from the world and not speak to anyone, but making the effort with the right people that understand where you are can help you to stay connected and get through each day.
  8. Time: The saying goes ‘Time is the greatest healer’ and I have to agree with this. Losing someone close to you is incredibly hard, and life is not the same especially if you lived with them, so it is essential not to expect too much from yourself too quickly, allow yourself whatever time and space you need and please don’t feel guilty about it is essential to the healing process. 
  9. Remember those special dates and occasions: Everyone will have their own memories unique to the person they have lost, but if you can don’t lose those special dates and thoughts, whether is going to a favourite place, bench or even sitting with a cup of tea somewhere, by doing this with help to keep their memory alive.

BREAKOUT: POEM BY SAMANTHA CRILLY:

With Angels you fly

I gaze up at the birds as they pass on by

touching the rims of heaven beyond the sky

Shoulder to shoulder with angels you fly

I know now I can smile without having to justify

Being ok without you, because I know you would want me to,

Still laugh every day and flourish in every way,

I had always held the burden of your absence in my mind

Something you would have so wanted me to leave behind

 Even though it pains me to do so, I know I have to let go

  keeping all the wonderful memories of us together

 Gifts I now know will stay with me forever

WORLD KINDNESS DAY: Five reasons kindness can boost your health and wellbeing

“Kindness costs nothing … yet is the most priceless gift one can give.”

A leading campaigner on mental health has urged Brits to be kind as it can help others and boost you own wellbeing. 

And Lynn Crilly, who is also a mental health counsellor, says the “kindness of strangers” can often be the perfect tonic for someone experiencing a life crisis. 

Speaking on World Kindess Day – which is celebrated today (November 13) Lynn  said: “We often talk of the “kindness of strangers’ ‘ – and there’s no doubt that, sometimes, the very best support can arrive from a place you least expect it.

“Three years ago, at the start of lockdown, many people were inspired to reach out to each other with kindness. They were motivated to do the right thing by supporting and uplifting one another in the face of adversity,

“However, as the pandemic continued, it began to grind people down. They became tired, and less tolerant of each other. 

“Then, as the world began to emerge from the pandemic, it soon became clear the devastating effect it had had on people’s mental health. 

Addressing the issues many people currently face in their lives, Lynn continued: “People have been living in a state of uncertainty ever since, with the economy, climate, war and the high interest rates, all compounding many of mental health issues people may have today.

“That’s why I hope lots of people show kindness today and in the future.”

Lynn became a counsellor after one of her daughter’s, Samantha, fell into the trap of Anorexia Nervosa and OCD, at the age of 13. She explored every avenue and source of help, but they were not right.  Lynn felt she had no option but to educate herself and learn as much as she could about eating disorders and mental illness. 

Here Lynn shares five reasons why it can make a difference both to you, and the person sitting by your side:

It encourages us to reset the idea of ‘KINDNESS’.

Kindness is much more than ‘a nice thing to do’ It plays a vital role in our overall well-being. Research has shown that kindness has a positive effect on both our mental and physical health – whether we are showing kindness, receiving kindness, or just watching kindness. How wonderful is that?

It can help us to feel happier:

When we experience kindness, a hormone called dopamine is released in our brain which uplifts our mood. It is often referred to as ‘Helper’s High’.

Kindness improves relationships: 

We tend to gravitate towards people that show us kindness. This is mainly because kindness reduces the emotional distance between each other and helps us to feel more bonded.

Kindness is good for the heart:

When we show kindness to one another it makes us feel all warm inside. Acts of kindness are often accompanied by a feeling of emotional warmth, which in turn 

produces the hormone oxytocin in the body. Oxytocin causes the release of a chemical called nitric oxide, which expands the blood vessels, reduces blood pressure, and protects the heart.

Kindness slows ageing:

Kindness has been proven to slow the ageing process. Research shows that oxytocin can reduce levels of free radicals and inflammation (two main culprits of ageing) in our cardiovascular system. This also slows ageing at the source.

And finally, kindness is contagious:

When a stone is dropped into water it creates waves, acts of kindness of the same ripple effect. When we are kind, it inspires others to be kind, studies show that it creates a ripple effect. 

That spreads outwards, to friends, their friends, and their friends – that is a great three degrees of separation. So, when a person is kind to another it could positively affect up to 125 people. How cool is that?

The busy, complicated technology fuelled world we live in today desperately needs more kindness, which will not only give all the above benefits but also restore faith in human nature and give people hope. 

So, we should also remember we should not need a special day to show one another kindness. We should aim to make it part of our everyday life. Remember kindness costs nothing – yet is the most priceless gift of all.