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Action to combat funeral poverty during National Grief Awareness Week

Social Security Scotland highlights Funeral Support Payment  

Social Security Scotland is helping to combat funeral poverty by raising awareness about Funeral Support Payment during National Grief Awareness Week (2 – 8 Dec). 

It is providing funeral directors, faith groups and registrars with access to a range of downloadable resources about the payment. The resources include posters, leaflets, social media posts and video content. 

Funeral Support Payment is available to people in Scotland who need help towards the cost of a funeral and get Universal Credit or other qualifying benefits. It can be used towards funeral costs for a baby, a child or an adult. This includes stillborn babies. 

Legislation is also coming into effect on 2 December which will improve the way the benefit is delivered and provide further support to people who are struggling to pay funeral costs. The changes are based on feedback from past recipients and stakeholders, including the funeral industry, charities and bereavement support groups.   

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Shirley-Anne Somerville, Cabinet Secretary for Social Justice, said: “We are all familiar with terms like child poverty and fuel poverty but funeral poverty is affecting more and more people. The average cost of a funeral in the UK is now £4,000, well beyond the means of many families. 

“It is hugely important for us to mark the passing of our loved ones. Sadly, people experiencing the immediate shock and grief of a significant death often make arrangements for funerals with little understanding of the financial implications and with limited resources to pay big bills. 

“Since Funeral Support Payment was launched in 2019, the Scottish Government has provided over £54.2 million in support to more than 28,000 bereaved people to help pay for funeral costs when they need it most.” 

Gordon Black, Director with Alex Black Funeral Care Glasgow, said: “Funeral Support Payment is definitely important. Some 70% of our funerals are covered by Funeral Support Payment. We work in a lot of deprived areas and the payment is a real help to the people we serve. 

“We have Funeral Support Payment leaflets and posters in all our offices and arrangement rooms and we mention it if a family says to us they are going to struggle with paying for the funeral.” 

National Grief Awareness Week takes place from 2 December to 8 December. It provides a dedicated period for individuals, organizations, and communities to come together to acknowledge and address the various aspects of grief. 

The payment isn’t a loan and doesn’t need to be paid back although Social Security Scotland will recover the payment from the estate of the person who died if they leave any financial assets. 

The payment can cover burial and cremation costs. There is also a flat rate for any other expenses. This is £1,257.75 for most applications or £153.50 if the person who died had a funeral plan in place. It can also cover other costs such as travel expenses, documents and medical expenses. 

People may be eligible for Funeral Support Payment if they meet all of the criteria below: 

  • they live in Scotland 
  • they or their partner are getting certain benefits or tax credits* 
  • the person who died lived in the UK 
  • the funeral is being held in the UK or in some circumstances in the EU, Iceland, Liechtenstein, Norway or Switzerland 
  • they are applying after the person has died, until 6 months after the date of their funeral 
  • they or their partner are responsible for the funeral costs 
  • it is reasonable for them or their partner to accept responsibility for the funeral costs. 

* Universal Credit (UC), Income Support, Income-based Jobseeker’s Allowance, Income related Employment and Support Allowance, Pension Credit, Housing Benefit, Child Tax Credit (CTC) and disability or severe disability element of Working Tax Credit. 

People can find out more and apply online at mygov.scot/funeralsupport. People can also apply in person, over the phone or ask for a paper application form by post by calling us free on 0800 182 2222. 

Before applying for Funeral Support Payment, people should register the death or stillbirth and give their funeral director (if they have one) consent to speak with Social Security Scotland about their application. This will minimise the time taken to process the application.

National Grief Awareness Week

Today is the start of #NationalGriefAwarenessWeek 2024!

At such a difficult time of year the aim of this week is to help those grieving to know they are supported.

We show the bereaved where to turn for Help and Hope and open conversations around death and dying.

Please share our posters, tag The Good Grief Trust and use our hashtags, #NationalGriefAwarenessWeek

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National Grief Awareness Week: Nine steps you can take to get through the darkest days

BEING open about your feelings and allowing yourself time to recover are the key to overcoming grief, a leading expert has said. 

This week marks National Grief Awareness Week with events planned across the UK to raise awareness of an often under-discussed issue.

In an additional bid to help, counsellor and author Lynn Crilly, who supports a lot of people through these dark moments, has today shared nine tips on how to best deal with grief when it strikes.

It comes as her daughter Samanta, the author of Hope Through Poetry, releases a new poem in a further attempt to spread awareness. 

Lynn said: “Grief impacts us all. But it impacts us all in different ways. When I lost my Aunty ten years ago, I felt a pain I had never experienced before, I guess you could call it a broken heart or heartache.

“It took me many months if not years to accept her not being around, but as they say with time I have created a new normal, the bad days became fewer, and while I miss her terribly I have found myself again. 

“Sometimes I felt guilty for smiling or laughing, but I know she would have wanted that for me which has helped with the bereavement process and to move on. So too has keeping her memory alive and remembering special days and anniversaries with the happy memories I have.

“There are things you can do to help get you through.”

Sharing her next practical steps, Lynn said:

  1. Allow yourself to feel emotion: If you feel emotional or sad, let these feelings out, do not be afraid to cry, as crying can help to release emotions. If you feel angry or resentful…. that’s ok, let the anger out in a safe way such as hitting a punch bag or cushion … try not to bottle it up which can be easier said than done, especially if you are supporting others as well as trying to deal with your own grief.
  2. Talk about the Person: Don’t be afraid to talk about the person who has died. Whilst they may not be here physically, they are still very much present in your mind and with others too. It is important to keep their memory alive, with stories, memories and just talking about them. This can be painful to start with but by not doing so can leave you feeling isolated and alone with your grief.
  3. Take Care of Yourself: Taking care of yourself as much as possible is so important to how you deal with your loss. Try to eat good food regularly, getting some fresh air and gentle exercise along with sleep (or if trouble sleeping rest) can all help with this.
  4. Talk about your feelings: Talk to someone that you trust about your feelings, such as a family member, close friend or partner. If you do not feel able to confide in anyone there are also helplines with dedicated people at the other end ready to listen.
  5. Avoid ‘short term’ fixes: Sometimes to block out the pain and how you are feeling, people can turn to alcohol and drugs to make them feel better or numb the feelings, while these may help temporarily, they are not the long-term answer and can cause further issues of their own.
  6. Keep a Routine: It is easy to feel lost and not wanting to do anything when you are grieving, but by keeping a routine and doing normal everyday things it can help to distract you even if for a short while.
  7. Stay in touch with people: I know myself it is so easy to withdraw from the world and not speak to anyone, but making the effort with the right people that understand where you are can help you to stay connected and get through each day.
  8. Time: The saying goes ‘Time is the greatest healer’ and I have to agree with this. Losing someone close to you is incredibly hard, and life is not the same especially if you lived with them, so it is essential not to expect too much from yourself too quickly, allow yourself whatever time and space you need and please don’t feel guilty about it is essential to the healing process. 
  9. Remember those special dates and occasions: Everyone will have their own memories unique to the person they have lost, but if you can don’t lose those special dates and thoughts, whether is going to a favourite place, bench or even sitting with a cup of tea somewhere, by doing this with help to keep their memory alive.

BREAKOUT: POEM BY SAMANTHA CRILLY:

With Angels you fly

I gaze up at the birds as they pass on by

touching the rims of heaven beyond the sky

Shoulder to shoulder with angels you fly

I know now I can smile without having to justify

Being ok without you, because I know you would want me to,

Still laugh every day and flourish in every way,

I had always held the burden of your absence in my mind

Something you would have so wanted me to leave behind

 Even though it pains me to do so, I know I have to let go

  keeping all the wonderful memories of us together

 Gifts I now know will stay with me forever

National Grief Awareness Week – 78% of us have NEVER spoken to a GP about bereavement

At the start of National Grief Awareness Week, Cruse Bereavement Support and the Royal College of GPs are announcing an exciting new partnership to strengthen bereavement support and understanding of grief for people across the UK.

In an important step for UK healthcare, the partnership aims to highlight just how impactful grief can be on a person’s physical and mental health.

New research released today by Cruse, shows that over three-quarters of adults in Britain (78%) have never spoken to a GP about a bereavement*.

With this staggering figure in mind, Cruse and the RCGP are making clear to people who may need additional support after experiencing a bereavement, whether recent or in the past, that they can connect with their GP practice team.

This will give GP teams the opportunity to identify people who may need additional support from bereavement services as well as offering information and advice on support available.

With support from a grant of more than £574,000 from The National Lottery Community Fund the largest funder of community activity in the UK, this campaign will supply GPs nationwide with a toolkit supporting them to provide consistent and compassionate support for grieving patients.

The toolkit also provides information and products for patients and healthcare staff – including an animation on the new partnership, a patient poster for all GP surgeries on bereavement and grief and a VBA (very brief advice) card for practice staff.

Sadly, nearly everyone will be affected by bereavement at some point in their life and it is vital that the right support is available and known for people who need it.

This exciting initiative delivered by Cruse Bereavement Support in partnership with The RCGP, is a big step toward ensuring healthcare groups and bereavement support charities are working in partnership to provide the best bereavement support for grieving people.

Steven Wibberley, Chief Executive of Cruse Bereavement Support comments: “Understanding grief and how it can affect your health is the first step towards getting the support you need – and GPs and practice teams can play a really important role in helping grieving people with this.

“That’s why we are so pleased to be collaborating with the RCGP in this important campaign to bridge the gap between healthcare and bereavement support. It’s our hope that this partnership will also ensure all grieving people, especially those who may feel alone and unsure of where to get help, are able to access the right support when they so desperately need it.”

Dr Catherine Millington-Sanders, Clinical Lead for Palliative and End of Life Care for the Royal College of General Practitioners comments: “After a bereavement, it’s natural to want and ask for support. Many people find support from their friends, family or community networks but others may be really struggling with their grief and find more formal support helpful.

“GP practices are a valued and important source of information, support and advice in our communities. This work between the RCGP and Cruse aims to equip GP practice teams with the tools to help identify people with bereavement needs and accessible information to sign-post people to appropriate bereavement support, ensuring the bereaved person is at the centre of every step.”